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Nursery Decisions

We are few weeks away from demo…waiting until after our next round of company leaves 🙂 but the planning is coming together.

This one wasn’t as easy as the other bedrooms, bathrooms, kitchen, or basically this was probably the toughest one we have tackled so far. Coming up with colors and patterns that made everyone happy was a challenge.

I am so thankful we have H helping again! She stopped by last week and dropped off lots of choices for us to review.

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Belly buds and 22 weeks

I can’t believe how fast it is going!

22 weeks. Our little girl is pretty active in MKs belly and last week the rest of the Ks got to feel her kick! Can’t wait to feel it ourselves in a few weeks.

Baby B has also got her hearing now! Since we can’t be around her we had to great creative.

That’s where belly buds come in…

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…a pretty cool invention for surrogate pregnancies if you ask me!

We just record messages and send them via their VoiceShare software to MK and she can play them to her belly buddy!

And if MK listens to them she is probably going to get a good laugh too 🙂

Our first trial was at bedtime and it didn’t process right- which is probably a good thing since most of the time we were “yelling” so the recorder could hear us!

The 2nd time we recorded we got it right. I just put the laptop on the table at breakfast and hit play. We all had a little fun and then just did our regular routine- signing off by calling Baby B by 3 different names…the poor girl might have a little confusion in the name department if this keeps up 🙂

It was great to hear from MK later that night that Baby B had heard from her family 4 times that evening.

Happy days!!!

Our Valentine’s Day Surprise

So we went public on Valentine’s day with our little maybe baby.

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Later that day MK went public with her announcement as well. The outpouring of support and well wishes were amazing. So far only one negative comment and it was a friend of a friend. We had expected it but it still blows me away that people post public negativity. It is ok to not agree but why do you feel the need to post it publicly when you know all it will do is hurt someone. Fortunately it was about 200:1 on positive to negative comments so just a drop in the bucket.

In the wonderful world of how the Facebook feed works many of my friends saw announcement one but missed the rest of the story…I found that out as last night I was getting many congrats and how are you feeling followed by stares as I ordered glasses of wine. We cleared it up and had a few laughs…but think I might need to repost soon or get a special wine glass that says we are pregnant but I am not carrying 🙂

I am still dealing with the fact that we are considered a geriatric pregnancy and genetic testing. I know it is normal. I know the odds are in our favor. But like with anything when you have to make decisions, you think about it, you think about the worst, you hope and pray for the best, it just isn’t easy.

We have our Maternit21 test scheduled for Wed and I am sure that will be a long wait for getting results…but we will also know the sex which is exciting too. MB can’t wait to find out.

MB sent her first little belly shot this week and mentioned feeling little flutters of good stuff happening. Amazing. Amazing. I still sometimes can’t believe this is all happening.

As the news is now out I am starting to find my way on how to answer questions like When are you due? I initially find myself saying She or MK but that seems odd and so am starting to find the answers are always we. We as in the 4 of us adults and 3 kids…it really is a village. Other questions have been simple to answer- will the baby have contact with MK? Of course from the minute we started this journey they became part of the family.

We started a blog of the journey at AZ Baby MN Oven but after having over 1000 hits this weekend I must admit I am a little nervous about the next post.

Inside MB’s head

So today I thought I would ask MB what her top 5 questions were about the maybe baby…was kinda fun to see what she said. I will try and get her thoughts on the baby progress once a month as we wait for the maybe baby to arrive!

After she was done she came back in and added a 6th…daddy would be proud.

  1. I wonder where he/she is going to sleep
  2. I wonder what we will name her/him….my favorites right now are Colton and Isabella
  3. How is the baby going to act
  4. Will the baby like me and will we get along
  5. I wonder what people are going to think about the baby when they find out
  6. Will it like the Colts?

Time to start spreading the news….

So we had another ultrasound today.

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Results: The subchorionic hemorrhage is same size, and heart rate is 185 today. They said everything looked good. The doctor didn’t seem to be too worried about it. I let out a sigh of relief.

While it isn’t gone it is a little less scary than it was 10 days ok.

MK is still on “rest” and we aren’t back to normal yet…but we do have some countdown dates to start looking forward to.

Jan 17th- one less pill for MK to take

Jan 20th- our first “normal” pregnancy doctor appt

Jan 24th- the shots stop and the rest of the meds start to taper off

Jan 27th- our next Ultrasound.

We laugh…the maybe baby has so far had lots of doctors, lawyers, and now paparazzi too (plus tons of love!)

Tonight at dinner we talked about when we wouldn’t call the maybe baby “maybe”…MB wants to wait till a week after it’s born…she is so worried something might happen. We met in the middle and decided after we get through the first trimester and maybe around 20 weeks when we can give it a boy/girl nickname….but not a real name, I think that is going to take us quite a bit to decide.

MB has the gender reveal party all planned out…it is too funny.

But we are now going to start to spread the word with our family and then make it official and all on Facebook :)…once we find a unique and funny way to do that..which MK will be a big part of – she has the funny bone of the bunch.

MB is excited to make her first tell tomorrow…she wants to tell our lovely neighbor who drives her home from school everyday…she has really enjoyed driving with them and I found it so sweet that was her first tell.

I also want to say thanks for those of you who reached out today with your thoughts and prayers. You know who you are and I want you to know how much it meant to me!!!! This is an amazing journey and behind every turn I am touched by those near and far that are a part of our lives. Thank you!!!

 

 

 

A little helpless

So I wasn’t prepared for feeling so helpless.

The last few weeks have been really rough on MK.  Not just first trimester rough she has all that and then migraines, sickies, and just a lot of crap to deal with.

I feel horrible and helpless.

I wish I could take on all the negatives myself but I can’t.

I don’t know how to help or make it better.

If I lived closer I would offer to take the girls for awhile and give her some down time but I can’t even do that.

You can’t send feeling better in the mail.

So it just keeps piling on and all I can do is pray that Monday goes well and we can start weaning off the meds and that hopefully that will provide her some relief and that things will start to improve.

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The bean

We have graduated up to a kidney bean this week with the maybe baby. 8 weeks along.

No real update this week. MK is feeling fine baby wise but the meds are really starting to take their toll and we are both hoping we can jump over to the “normal” side of pregnancy really soon.

Just to give you an idea here is MK’s med list:

Estrace 0.1 mg 2g twice a day
Progesterone inj 50mg/ml 2 units 1/day
Estradiol 2 mg 2/day
Folgard 1/day
Crinone 8% gel 2/day
Vivelle patches–wearing 4
Vitamin E 400 mg 2/day
Prenatal vitamins
Coq10
Baby aspirin
Shots, pills, patches. Once a day, twice a day. So much for so long. I feel for her and wish I could make it stop and hope that we will be over this next hurdle on Monday with the next ultrasound.
In other news it is fun to share that maybe baby with MB…she is amazed to hear about the different stages, that the baby had a tail, what is developing.
She is nervous about telling anyone because she feels that if she tells someone then it might not come true.
She wants to ask about MK’s belly but then thinks that will be rude and doesn’t want to hurt her feelings.
One little mind going 10 million miles an hour, just like mine.

A heartbeat goes up and down

TB is the more cautious one. He keeps his excitement in check so he doesn’t have the big crash of disappointment. I keep my emotions on my sleeves- big swings with the highs and big drops with the lows.

Today was one of those days.

The maybe baby is the size of a blueberry and today we got our first peek.

First results. The up. We have a heartbeat. Fluttering away per the K’s. Heartbeat was 134. That was good and the growth and development was good as well.

Then there was the down. A small subchorionic hemorrhage. Now putting small in front of that just makes me laugh…small blah blah something horrible sounding.

Down the roller coaster I went and straight to google. For once google relaxed me a little bit…it wasn’t has scary as it sounded.

Then we waited to hear back from the fertility clinic, because 7 weeks is early for an ultrasound in the normal pregnancy world and maybe they had other insights.

I have to say when the email came back and the clinic said this is actually pretty common my roller coaster settled down a bit.

Now we wait. 10 more days. Jan 13 for the next ultrasound.

We wait for another win.

We wait for this to be moved over to the normal pregnancy category.

We wait for MK to be able to exercise again.

We wait for MK to stop having to take all the meds helping maybe baby along.

We wait until it feels safer.

We wait until we can go from maybe baby to baby B.

Patience.

We are getting an amazing gift. No one ever said it would be easy, nothing worth anything usually is.

So we wait. We practice patience. We let maybe baby settle in for hopefully the long haul.

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Maybe baby update….counting the days & hours

3 good blood works results. Our last test results were up to 13,662.

Next step is an Ultrasound and a heart beat.

Our appointment is scheduled for Thursday afternoon.

To be honest it is about the only thing that I can think about.

In no particular order here are the things I think about…

  • are the risks of losing the baby any higher with this pregnancy than a normal one
  • how is MK feeling
  • when will we feel that things are “safe”
  • what did I think about when I was pregnant with MB, was I this worried
  • if the heartbeat and location is good will we start to rest easy
  • when will MK be able to get off the medications
  • is this really happening….could we have a little baby B
  • how will we tell everyone
  • how much baby gear has changed in 9 years
  • how will I ever let the Ks know how grateful we are for this opportunity

And I could go on and on and on….it just a series of thoughts going in and out of my head, heart, and soul each and every day as I count down the hours till we get our first peek at the maybe baby.

Maybe baby…6 weeks and growing…the size of a lentil bean.

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The waiting game

So we made it over a huge hurdle…but I am still so nervous.

I finally pulled my questions together and sent them over to the doctor today…

Questions like:

When are we in the “clear”
How far along is she really?

I know there is no sure answer but there are stats and there are next steps and it helps to know what those next milestones are.

It is crazy to me but MK is actually 4 weeks 3 days pregnant. Since the transfer was just 2 weeks ago that seems so off…but that is what it is. So we are 1/3 of the way through the first trimester. If this all comes through the maybe baby could arrive late August….

The next major milestone is a heartbeat and U/S to see where the location of the maybe baby is….that can be done around 6.5 weeks…so another 2.5 weeks to go. And like all pregnancies the first trimester is always the trickiest so another 8 weeks in total to get through that phase.

Between now and then we have 2 more blood tests to test out the HCG levels and make sure they are doubling every 48 hours as expected. Tuesday is the 2nd test and then another one a week after that..

So for now I am thankful for the success so far and hopeful for what tomorrow’s test results show.

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